First thing first. Let's talk about how we should live. 
Live and let live - You agree with that, don’t you? I mean who hasn’t been bothered by a brag who thinks he/she knows best, but can you fully aware of what you actually "let live” in your life?
Usually, we are proud of the way we live, “how we smartly hack the system” and “our newly discovered restaurant is the best”… And we have the need to share it with people, (desperately) not necessarily out of the love and respect we have for them, but more of satisfying the needs of proving ourselves, fishing for validation and compliments, and nurture our sense of superiority.
And I’m not even saying that this is bad. We all do that. I do that, people around me do that. That is just what humans do. It’s just how humans are innately wired, and not a very great one. That is why people who actually “let live” are extremely rare. We – the normal ones who never skip a chance to preach our ways and methods, usually just utter that “let live” phrase when we are tired of another human being, who is also spreading their ideas about how things should be done, or what is considered the best according to them. We just say: “just live and let live, dude!” so that that person won’t bother us anymore. But in turn, we go about and scatter our ideas of “how-to-live blah blah blah…” to other people, who we think that isn’t doing it “right”, who is “broken”, or “lost” and need some help.
So here is the problem: people don’t really need our help or advice if they are not asking for them. Offering helps is nice, but forcefully offering them is an act of insulting people if they don’t ask for it. That is when our kindness becomes officious and insensitive. Or is it actually kindness? If we stop for a second and ask ourselves the one question J U S T before we offer any ideas or advice: “do I understand this person?” And I mean really understand things from their shoes, most of the time the urge of giving advice or helps will diminish.
In the book “7 habits of highly effective people”, in which the author eloquently explained that every one of us has our own set of paradigm. And from that, we perceive our world, and because all paradigms are different, our views and perceptions are various too. So says the same problem that two people are facing, but each of them perceives it and deals with it within their own paradigms. We can’t act and think out of our paradigms, unless we consciously change it, and change doesn’t come around in a split of a second, as we all know.
So that is why, giving help or offering advice when we don’t really understand people, what they are going through, is a pointless act. And it is not to say, who are we to think that our ways are the best, and what we are doing are the coolest things to push over on people, while all we can see is just within our own paradigms? And one other thing to remember, “if people think something is working for them, there’s no way we can argue against it.”
And this is just the argument based on the premise that we are offering from pure kindness. But are we? Or is it from the sense of superiority, the need to fill the void of constantly seeking validation, or the urge of trying to prove ourselves? So when you stop for one beat and ask yourself that question, it may strike some other questions in you too, for example like these: “are you acting out of your ego?”, “who am I trying to prove to? that person? why do I need to be validated by that person who I think needs my help? will I be at peace after I receive their compliment (if ever they would give me at all!)? if not, then when will this need for validation stop? why do I need to constantly prove myself to everyone? And is it every one or is it actually … myself?” …ect
You are reading these lines, you will either leave this page and swear to never come back because I’m preaching on you and you don’t like that, or you will start to reflect on yourself. You don’t need to be brutally honest, because I don’t ask you to tell me if you ever have those feelings. And of course, you’ll KNOW it if you have had it. That need for other’s validation to fill the void inside of you is not something too hard to recognize. And if that’s the case, you’re the one who needs help.
Solutions? I have none to offer. Who am I to think that my way is better than yours? I’m just one of you, remember? lol
But if you’ve let those questions above reflect in yourself, or at least remember of the time you got annoyed by someone else’s officious advice before you yourself offering them to others, you’ll end up being wiser than you were one second before. And that’s called mindfulness, or maybe a little bit grown-up.